Have you ever been in a situation where some people always find way to criticize you , your work or thinking ?
I have been through the same, and had taken that soo seriously that before posting anything i used to make my family members or friends re-read my content. It had such a bad impact on my mind due to such people.
After re-reading process, i realized things posted by me are my experience, my learning from life, they can’t be wrong….my content was imparting life lessons which may help other, then i stopped listening to such people, blocked them.
And when i kept on asking my mom to re-read my content, at that time she made me recall moral story , which i learnt in childhood .
It was of “THE MEN, HIS WIFE ,THE DONKEY AND CRITICS”
A man and his wife were traveling with their donkey.
On the first day, they passed through a town, both riding on his back. They heard people whispering: “What a mean couple, putting all that weight on the donkey.”
On the second day, they passed through another town, the man on the donkey, the wife walking beside. They heard people whispering: “What a cruel man, forcing his wife to walk while he rides on the donkey.”
On the third day, they passed through another town, the man walking, the wife on the donkey.
They heard people whispering: “What a careless man, letting his wife ride alone on the donkey.”
On the fourth day, they passed through another town, both walking beside the donkey. They heard people whispering: “What a stupid couple, why do they walk if they could ride on the donkey?”
Taken exact Story from below link : https://emptyyourcup.substack.com/p/monday-zen-the-couple-on-the-donkey
Moral of story:
– Whatever you do, some people will always be there who won’t agree with you
– You can’t please everyoneHave self belief on you, your thinking and your work , don’t get distracted by criticism
– If you keep pleasing everyone, you will end up with nothing
Film stars, cricketers, Youtubers, even our PRIME MINISTER…….etc, everyone is criticized by someone or other , if they let that affect them and stopped working then we won’t be able to see great work.
There is vast difference between someone criticizing and your well wisher guiding to rectify your mistakes.
How to differentiate between them ?
– check someone criticizing you have been mastered in particular work or just commenting
– Well wishers may be your close people who know you very well, critic’s don’t know you.
– someone achieved great things in particular work can give feedback on your mistakes
It is common that instead of believing in our self we keep on asking other people for their feedback because it is natural tendency of human being to seek validation from other’s.
But seeking validation is not a good thing, that’s why most importantly have “self belief ” in whatever you do
“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world” – Dalai Lama
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